From the moment we are born, we begin developing stories about relationships
and about the world around us. When those internalized stories are formed
around adverse or traumatic childhood relationships or experiences,
we humans get very adaptive.
Even as children, we find ways to cope just to get through it...
And that's good news! It helps us survive!
But while helpful at the time, those ways of coping tend to stick with us
and often become less and less helpful (even destructive or harmful) as we get older.
That’s when we get stuck.
What is stuck? Repeated patterns of unexplained emotionality, relational chaos
or emptiness, deep internal pain or fear, or living life almost robotically.
Stuck is a loss of passion or meaning and a sense of indifference to life.
If any of that sounds familiar to you, maybe you feel like something is wrong with you.
Maybe you're struggling with depression, anxiety, hopelessness, fear, relationship problems.
More often than not, these are just examples of the confusing and devastating leftover effects
of those early experiences.