From the moment we are born, we begin developing stories about ourselves,
about our relationships, and about the world around us. When those internalized stories
are formed around adverse or traumatic childhood relationships or experiences,
we humans get very adaptive. Even as very young children,
we find ways to cope just to get through difficult experiences...
And that's good news! It helps us survive!
But while helpful at the time, those ways of coping tend to stick with us
and often become less and less helpful (even destructive or harmful) as we get older.
That’s when we get stuck.
I think of "stuck" as repeated patterns of unexplained emotionality, relational chaos
or emptiness, deep internal pain or fear, or living life almost robotically.
Stuck can result in a loss of passion or meaning, maybe even a sense of indifference to life.
If any of that sounds familiar, maybe you feel like something is wrong with you.
Maybe you're struggling with depression, anxiety, hopelessness, fear, relationship problems.
More often than not, these are just symptoms of the confusing and devastating
leftover effects of those early experiences.
Let's unravel all of it together.